Humility Works Wonders!

As a Motivational Speaker, author, and Life Improvement Coach, I am often asked for advice. I also offer a great many encouraging words, but the one area I tend to stay clear of is giving relationship advice. It's the one area where even after ten years of being with the same woman and married to her for eight of those years; and with two kids in, I am still learning the ropes myself. I just do not yet possess the confidence to go about seriously telling other people how to live rich and fulfilling lives together in matrimonial bliss or any other kind of romantically inclined relationship. However, throughout all the ups and downs my wife and I have had over the years we have discovered something that can only be described as a "marital epiphany."

Throughout a great many personal and professional peaks and valleys I have endured over the past couple of years, the one person who has been by my side - come hell or high water - has been my wife, Taria.

About three weeks ago, I let her know that her take on several matters I and we had been dealing with throughout the year was right. With both of us being strong-willed and occasionally stubborn (me more so), this admission was like a light switch being flipped in our relationship.

In fact, it has become somewhat of a fun game between us where we share things with one another and instead of deflecting fault or responsibility; we simply acknowledge that the other person was right, share a chuckle in that the other person conceded, and we move on. Hell, for all I know this little "epiphany" has added years to our marriage!

Now if you're married and you and your spouse are already getting down like this, God bless you & more power to you! But if you're still young & new in your relationship, you might want to take this little bit of advice ... Being right doesn't mean squat if your spouse or partner doesn't acknowledge it, and being wrong will only set to make matters worse if you don't acknowledge it.


A little humility with the one who is supposed to have your back against the world will go a LONG way!

God Bless,
HSRjr.

6 Sept. 2009 ... Today's Thought.

"I had a problem with someone once. So as not to engage in an unproductive argument, I wrote down my feelings & sent them in a letter. The letter was returned unopened. Everything could have been easily resolved; however, our relationship like that letter shall remain forever closed. Resolution must be a mutual effort. Make sure you do your part, & you can walk away with a clear conscience. The hurt will heal in time!" ~ HSRjr.

2 Sept 2009 ... Today's Thought.

Why are immigrants more likely to become millionaires in America than those people who are born here?

1. They realize that the "American Dream" is something they have to earn.

2. Because they weren't born here, they already know that the "American Dream" is neither a birthright or automatic entitlement.

3. They come here with the mindset to START A BUSINESS while we're born & live here with the mindset to GET A JOB.

HRJR Update ... WE ARE GOING AUDIO!

25 Aug 2009 ... Thought of the Day.

Time ... Time is the one thing I have a wealth of that I don't owe anybody. You may not yet be debt-free, but as long as you have more time than money, you have plenty of time to repay whatever money you may owe.






Even if you run out of money; if you still have time you can use that time to make more money. If/when you run out of time, it doesn't really matter how much money you may or may not have.



Does it?

When Will People Realize that Success Takes Time?

Through my personal studies and experience, I have come to learn that people who are not where they want to be can give you a million and one reasons why they can't seem to get ahead. On the flipside, the person who is grinding and steadily making it work for himself only needs to give you ONE reason why he can.

Times are hard. I get that. Now what? Speaking of time, people need to realize that it takes time to make things happen. It is unfortunate that we live in a disposable society that demands everything be provided instantly.

People need to realize that it took time to end up wherever they are; and if they want things to get better, it's going to take some degree of time to get to there. The problem is people don't want to look back on their mistakes, take responsibility for them, and learn from them. No ... they would much rather find someone or something else to blame.

Whether a person is choosing to start his or her own business or just find a job to keep the lights on and food on the table, that person must (1) set a goal; (2) develop a plan to make it a reality; (3) TAKE ACTION; and, (4) be flexible enough to analyze the steps they've taken & realize whether or not their actions are taking them closer to their goal or pulling them away.

Time, my friend ... Time is the one tool that can be made, used, spent, or wasted. Those who spend their time making the time to use their time rarely spend their time wasting time ... and IN TIME a bum can become a king.

17 Aug 2009 ... Today's Thought.

"It will not always be easy to find your way, but what is most important is that when realize you are where you don't want to be, you decide to take action to get to where you do want to be. If you're serious about the moves you want to make, all of the resources you need will find their way to you!"

~ HSRjr.